The duration of the mourning process can also be influenced by your relationship to the deceased, the amount of support you receive, and other factors.
Sometimes the healing process may become disrupted or delayed if other events or traumatic losses have previously occurred in a person’s life. This may be especially true if the other loss is relatively recent, or has never been fully processed in and of itself. This grief experience is known as “complicated grief.” People who are dealing with this type of grief may benefit by working with professionals who are trained in dealing with complex grief issues.
If, after some time has passed, you find your grief is still persistent and disruptive to the point where it impacts your daily functions, please seek professional counseling.
A funeral or memorial service provides an opportunity for the living to show respect for the deceased and pay tribute to their life. It provides a framework to freely and openly express our beliefs, feelings, and thoughts about the death of our loved one. It gives us permission to grieve our loss, share in solidarity, and gain strength from others who are experiencing the same loss.
The four main types of funeral services include the traditional funeral service, the memorial service, the committal service, and the affirmation or celebration of life service.
Yes, cremation or burial is merely the disposition of the body. Funeral services are to honor and remember your loved one, regardless of disposition.
Pre-arranging funeral services can be done regardless of the final disposition. Pre-arranging is simply recording your wishes with the funeral home and prefunding if you choose to do so.
Advance Directives - If the deceased left any written advance directives concerning the disposition of his remains and memorialization, you need to bring them with you. These instructions may be found in a will, or there may be a formally witnessed disposition directive, funeral pre-arrangements, or a pre-need contract.
Military Discharge Papers
Details on any cemetery property owned by the deceased or the family (grave plot, columbarium space, etc.)
Recent photograph of the deceased and any personal effects that you wish to be included in the viewing or burial
Specific information on the deceased:
Full legal name
Social Security number
Place of birth (city and state)
Educational history (number of years of schooling)
Armed Forces service dates and serial number
Occupation or profession
Parent's names, including mother's maiden name
Next of kin and other survivors
The funeral director's job is to assist the bereaved in various ways to help them through the loss of a loved one. A funeral director provides bereavement and consolation services for the living, in addition to making arrangements for the cremation, burial, and memorial services for the deceased. He fulfills the role of funeral arranger, funeral director, funeral attendant, and embalmer.
The following list is not all-inclusive, but describes some of the major tasks of a funeral director:
Removal and transfer of the deceased from the place of death to the funeral home
Professional care of the deceased, including embalming, casketing, and cosmetology
Consulting with family to make arrangements for the funeral service
Filing certificates, permits, and other required forms
Obtaining copies of the death certificate
Arrangements with the cemetery, crematory, or other places of final disposition
Creates and publishes the obituary
Arrangements for clergy, music, flowers, transportation, pallbearers, and special fraternal or military services
Directs and manages the funeral service and the funeral procession
Assists the family with death-related claims, including Social Security, VA insurance, grief counseling
A traditional funeral involves a number of services which add to the total cost. Besides a non-declinable basic services fee, other charges may include removal/transfer of the body to the funeral home; embalming; other preparation of the body; use of facilities and staff for viewing; use of facilities and staff for the funeral ceremony; use of a hearse, service car, or van; a basic memorial printed package; metal casket, a vault or grave liner, and purchase of a cemetery plot.